the role of fathers in children's education

pintingnya a father's role in educating children to be good and dutiful to parents. Despite all the talk about the task of educating the children, but there is a unique contribution of each in the context of the father and mother in educating children.

One of the tasks of Christian's father was "to teach (the command of God to your children by talking ......." (Deuteronomy 11:19) Clearly, God wants us to teach the commandments of God by talking about it. . If you're like me, you also may have difficulty talking about, let alone teach God's commandments to your children and teach I think talking is not too difficult;. a very difficult part is to discuss and teach the right and on time right so it can be digested by our children There is an event that God has given my wife and where we have the opportunity to teach and discuss the Word of God to one of our children .. The lesson that we say comes from Matthew 7:12 and delivery vehicles, none other than, basketball.

I believe that one reason why it was called the Golden Rule of Matthew 7:12 (Golden Rule) is due to its inherent value as gold is precious, these laws govern our relationships with others are great as well as practical. Notice what Jesus said, "Everything that you want so that people do for you, do the same thing to them this is the law and the prophets .." Blessed are those who are able to apply God's Word is the Word of life because this is the key to success in the association. Anyone can treat others as he wants to be treated, he already has a "gold" is priceless. As parents we miss our children to have a "gold" is priceless, and God has provided the ingredients.

One day a teacher of children 9 years almost wife called me to inform you that our son was crying at school. According to teachers, our children want to play basketball with his friends but they will not let him play with them. He felt the need to tell us because he felt sorry for the anguish of our children. In the afternoon I told my wife about our son. Earlier my wife had to ask our son and he told me that yes, she was crying because it was not invited to play basketball. Our natural reaction is unfortunate because we realized that our son likes to play basketball. Rejection of his friends is certainly grieves his heart.

Hearing these events, driven by compassion and a desire to comfort him, I rushed to call our son and asked him to play basketball in the yard. Through the game made me realize that in the end God will one atu separate from the task of educating the children entertained, who teaches the Word of God. God opened my eyes to things that are hidden are far more important than just entertain the kids. In a new drama that I understood why his friends are reluctant mengajarknya play. No other reason, he cheated! I encourage my parents instinct to act as a hero who wanted to defend our children, as if him play I said, 'Let everybody do not want to play with you, I'll always be ready to play with you. "However, it turns out he also trigger treatment of his friends.

By the time we were playing, his brother also threw a basketball. Sometimes the ball is thrown berentuhan with basketball with his brother and he immediately asked to repeat ..... with the ball in his hands again. But at some point, the ball collides with a ball thrown his brother, but when it happens, it throws me the ball. He immediately took the ball from my hand and "punish" me by giving the right to throw the ball to the basket twice. I tried to explain that the decision was wrong but he did not care and even strike play. With cross-legged on the ground that he held the ball wrong and insisted that I must accept the punishment.

I tried to explain that he had acted unfairly because at the time the same thing happen to him, not only did he not punish him, he would reward himself. He still did not accept my explanation and refused to recognize the inconsistency. In ignorance of what else should I do, I finally said softly, "If you play with is not fair, there will be no people who want to play again with you and I do not want to see you as someone who has no friends." Because that, I then hugged her and she began to cry. Then I asked again and now he is ready to acknowledge that injustice. After that, I asked him to play again and he played with honest and fair.

I thank God that does not let me pass this golden opportunity is invaluable. How easy for me to do my duty to entertain the parents of our children but lost a very valuable lesson. Through these events there are some things I learned is useful for tasks father. First, there is no other way, the task of educating the demanding time. Of course the desire or longing to be a good father is important, but the determination must be realized in the form of time allotted for our children. Without time, there will be no opportunity to "teach by talking" rule of life that comes from God's Word. If I do not make time to play basketball with our kids, there will be no opportunity to witness at once to correct the behavior and attitudes.

Second, the task of educating require a willingness to see the weakness of our children. we must be open to accept the fact that our children are not only not perfect, but the consequences of sin, he is potentially harmful to others. Sometimes it's hard for us to recognize the weaknesses of our children because of its weakness to some extent reflects our shortcomings as well.

Third, the task of educating the prioritized approach to love rather than confrontation. Sometimes we need to confront our children with his actions explicitly; occasionally we need to punish him. But that should be more frequent and preferred admonished to love. The harder I admonished him, the more adamant he denied it. Conversely, when I gently admonished him, he melted and willing to accept my word.

Fourth and finally, the task of educating the Christian requires us to be a father who knows the Word of God. Without knowledge of the Word of God, we can not educate him according to the Word of God. Golden Rule of Matthew 7:12 is very important, but there are many truths of His Word that we need to convey to our children.