Menopause and the Integrity of marriage relationships

Cope with menopause is not easy. This action includes one of the tensions faced by middle-aged husband and wife.

Research shows that 10 to 15 percent of postmenopausal women increased anxiety. They have insomnia (difficulty sleeping) and depression (feeling very depressed and sad). Psychiatrists and doctors agree that in such cases, the role of husband is very important.

For many women, early menopause (menopause) is not simply mark the end of the ability to have children. He is also a painful experience and physical feelings.

Sex is never a problem for Henry Ong and his wife. But when she turned 50, she started complaining of pain when having sex. He also turned into a moody, aloof, and anxious. Back pain is a common complaint submitted Ny.Ong.

Henry encouraged him to see a doctor. But no improvement occurs after that. The doctor said, there are symptoms of menopause in Ny. Ong, and it may last several months.

Doctor Pauline Sim, a psychiatrist at KK Hospital, Singapore explains, menopause is a time when the menstrual cycle and female reproductive stopped. Generally occurs at the end of the age of 40 years. But the psychological symptoms had begun some years before that. When a woman's hormone levels fluctuate (up and down) and the arrival of menstruation became irregular, women can become more agitated, insomnia and depression. But not all women experience psychological changes.

Described by Dr. Kok Lee Peng, a psychiatrist at Gleneagles Hospital, as much as 50 percent of the women who influenced the changes it undergoes hot flush, ie the whole body suddenly felt hot and then spending a lot of sweat.

Other changes are osteoporosis or fragile bones, back pain, and there was thinning of the vaginal wall. It makes sexual intercourse painful.

The psychiatrists were agreed that for the wife's, husband's role is important. Sim said doctors see many menopausal women are so confused to repeatedly replace the physician to address the problem as soon as possible. Some even up to leap out of the car is running.

Cope with menopause is one of a list of tensions faced middle-aged husband and wife, Ang Thiam Hong said psychotherapist who has handled 200 cases of marriage crisis in middle-aged couples. According to him, when the kids are older and have left home, readjust to life as husband and wife can be a problem. Apart from pressure problems due to complaints of menopause, there is also the possibility of an imbalance in the sexual needs of a husband and wife.

"Wives often feel like a loss that he can not bear anymore. He could have been looking for her husband to get intimacy but with menopause, decreased sexual arousal, "said Ang. Rather, husband can build new relationships with other women who were younger, to convince himself that he still has appeal.

Overcoming the problems of menopause, the counselors stressed the importance of husband and wife talk about it. For wives painful symptoms of menopause, husband needs help with learning more about the condition.

The doctor said Sim, "the husband should not say, 'Do not complain. It's just a matter of your mind ', or' How is it possible. My mother and my brother, who she had no problems so '. Sentences like that could offend him because he will not be like that. Accompany your wife alone and do not reproach him. "