Discuss the issue without any problems

No doubt, good communication will contribute to a happy family life. However, our own attitude or the attitude of the couple can make a lazy communicate. Which one is the way we communicate, not the communication itself. Thus, there is no reason to finally do not want to talk about. Communication so that you do not end a war of words, try to apply these things.

Specify Talk Time
Avoid talking about problems at the times you or your spouse usually tend to get angry. For example, when a new home office when you're tired and easily provoked emotions. Instead, talk at leisure time and note whether the heart condition is in good condition. Speaking at the wrong time will exacerbate the problem.

Although you initially intend to discuss an issue with either, but it could be the problem you and your partner emotionally. Increasingly harsh tone of the atmosphere. If this happens, you'll want to keep silence for a while until things calm down. Hold your emotions and do not be lured by greeting your spouse.

If the conversation is not possible proceed at that time, speak with respect to your spouse that you want to talk about this another time. Determine the time and not too long from the moment you stop the conversation. Remember, to request another time to talk about tone and attitude of respect. Not with words condescending like "Lazy to talk with you!" Or "Did you, do not need anymore diomongin". Do not forget to meneepati appointment to speak at a time you specify to discuss this giving rise to a sense of trust partner.



Talk to Honest
Do not think that your spouse know what bothers your heart. Your spouse was a man who can not read hearts. So, instead of silencing your spouse because they think he knows the problem, there is better to talk about your feelings honestly. Remember, when saying your feelings with a good tone is not directly a temper tantrum.

Say clearly what and when the problem is and how you feel. If problems are to be discussed there are several, you can write it down along with the solution. Avoid also like to leverage the partner's fault the attitude that problems are not widened.



Listen
What is important in communication is listening. Spouse may feel that you are not listening when he was talking. This is, probably because you feel you already know the partner's feelings or think they know what will be discussed. Avoid the feeling of being already knows what she's thinking or feeling. Try to understand his feelings if you were in his position, you definitely want your words to be heard.

When your partner is speaking not to interrupt his words, let your partner until you've finished expressing all. Give your full attention to your partner is expressing his feelings. Indicate with a genuine attitude of listening. For example, do not listen but keep your eyes glued to the TV. This can make your partner is not considered.

When finished listening, try to reveal back what you have heard. Ask if you disclose it in accordance with the intention of your spouse. Request a correction if it turns out there are not appropriate. This is to avoid misunderstanding between husband and wife.



Create a Solution Agreement
The purpose of discussing the problem is to create a solution that can eliminate the problem. After talking, you'll know better what the problem yag is actually happening and how your partner's feelings. Now, make a solution to the problem is not getting a protracted and may disrupt the harmony of your family.

Convey that you pikitkan solutions as well as your partner found to have the opportunity to submit suggestions for solutions. If necessary, write down the possibility of an unthinkable solutions. Once completed, the agreed solution where you both choose. The solution must have the agreement of both of you so that no one objected to the solution at a later date.

Once the agreement is approved, set when you and your partner will talk about the implementation of solutions that have been specified. Has it been implemented and how the level of success or impacts that may arise.

Communication is vital in family life. So, try continue to establish smooth communication within the family. Communication should also be made in good faith and with respect. Talking about problems is not like fighting, in which both sides attacked each other, accusing each other feel right and the wrong opponent. It will not produce a good situation because it will hurt both.

Remember, that your goal is to find a way out of a relief to you and your partner so that life becomes happier.